Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men

Asian Guys Are Gross
I receive a large number of emails from my fans asking for interracial dating advice for Asian men and also the #1 question that gets asked is, “How do I know if she (often a white girl, although not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”

Asian Guys Are Gross
As your Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question since its been asked so many times ad naseum. I’m finally likely to put it to bed for your first and last time despite my misgivings.

I had been recently reminded with this controversial topic (and I’ll cover the key reason why it’s so controversial extensively at the end) on one of my many flights training men inside the art of attraction once i sat next to an extremely pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.

In our conversation, she made many of the verbal indicators of curiosity that I’ve heard previously and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from the woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and for that reason to the likes individuals and I).

This is admittedly a rarer kind of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and something in which I’ll go more into detail during my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.

So now is a list of some of the things these girls will consciously do so that you can let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (although I use the term white female, the truth is other women from African American to Latin American, may also use the same flirting signals):

10 Signs a woman is Attracted to Asian Men

1. She “Knows” an Asian language:

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Maybe you’ve seen this type – they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or put on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) while they really only know how to order pho.

Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I propose an awesome sexual bantering tip because all women wants to be cultured. You, being a cosmopolitan man of the world, are going to teach her an expression in your language. Here’s an illustration for you Chinese speakers.

First, act grave and say something like, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this useful in the far reaches during my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”

Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I say?”

And you’ll say (in the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can handle) “You just said ‘I like it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, make use of phrases to compliment her.

Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I really like your laugh.’”

And she’ll laugh again. Continue but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded in the learning experience.

Girls who may have had the pleasure with this situation tell me it’s unique and something they’ve never forgotten. Be sure to utilize it if you know your mother tongue!

2. She Has Asian Friends:

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Her closest friend is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived across the street from a Vietanemse family. Even if they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they’ve some sort of Asian acceptance to make her seem more receptive. They’ll make use of the most random things also; a really random story I’ve heard is the place one girl’s delivery room doctor was obviously a Japanese guy, so since she was “born into the arms of an Asian man” she should “die in the arms of an Asian man too.” The point is, they are trying to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was brought to the idea of dating Asian men by a Korean acquaintance]

3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting styles: I’ve never benefitted from this personally but one of my clients is really a former North American fighting styles champ and he’s currently a fairly famous action director and actor. He’s written if you ask me on several occasions about the sexy crazy groupies which follow him and the individuals his circuit – an ample selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Probably the most beautiful Asian men groupies follow the martial arts circuit, the fighting styles circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You have a winner!

4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it be sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she’s an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this type of comes up, use visual imagery to color a picture in her mind that interests all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of your steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your own personal Korean BBQ, as well as the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating and even arousing topics. Why, you may well ask? Because speaking of food such as this is sensual…just like sex. How you can a man’s heart is through his stomach, right? It applies to beautiful women too.

5. She Knows A little more about Your Mother Country Than You are doing: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy – don’t take this as generalizing, she’s just trying to reach out to you. Play in to these fantasies when you can. Paint a picture about going on a vacation together. Focus on romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up having sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking hand in hand sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around within the sand kissing. Use her desire to your advantage.

6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:

They express fascination with anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and the like). This group of women aren’t really my bag, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s approximately her. If she’s discussing how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s trying to relate to you. The latter kind of woman really wants to impress you with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s hunting you to a point in which you say something to the effect of “That is so amazing how much you understand!” Watch for that and indulge her

7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and movies – this kind of girl is infatuated using the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger and more attractive, as this is a comparatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she may well not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. And even Chinese for that matter. I’m not saying it won’t happen, however i can’t ever think of a time I had been successful with this kind of girl despite my PUA mastery. I just don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she simply will not have anything less than a BIG BANG boyfriend (quite simply, a Korean or Japanese guy).

8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it be your eyes, Asian hair, or skin tone, she’s going to love them and allow you to know it at some point in the conversation. Take her up on it when she does by putting your forearm up to hers, or if you feel much more comfortable or if the conversation goes well, take her hand to say the contrasting tones. Intangible things such as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language aren’t uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (if you tell a girl she looks sexy in that dress, she’ll probably use it again). Just as i was little boys, we do melt under the praise of your beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments for example education or that knowledge of a second language, she’s wanting to help me learn.

9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:

They’ll typically produce a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. It is possible to bring this up as well. “Just think…if you and get wed and we had a litter of the very beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they might be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just like we men have sexual fantasies, ladies have “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push it out of their minds to keep emotionally detached, but remember that, by the end of this or any conversation you’ve got with a female thinking about you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping with her.

10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is actually the biggest, most obvious indicator a woman can give you that she’s into Asian men generally and you in specific. Believe me, anytime a girl has ever told me she had an Asian boyfriend before, I will pretty much romantically interact with her 99.9999% of times. So a white girl like this will say that she has dated an Asian man before. She’ll make this point and also further – she’ll try to guess your ethnicity to show that she’s “learned in the means of Asian men” and can prove that “not every body look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a guy of my ethnicity to produce her seem more appealing and receptive to me. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your decision to close because as signals go, it doesn’t get any bigger than this one.

With, saying, or doing one among the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically produce a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine some of those traits or even all of them together and, gentlemen, you merely might find yourself talking to one woman who’s madly in love with the Asian persuasion.

Recall the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her!


I mentioned previously i was always hesitant to answer this question. I know it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give that says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”

Why haven’t I answered it until recently? Unfortunately, the act of wondering means your LESS LIKELY TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.

It’s a paradox. You see, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve been hesitant to answer because, on a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men as a whole to actually know the answer to that question. I believe that the thousands of men that message me with this question are displaying what is known “learned helplessness.”

Basically, the men to whom the reply to the question “How can I tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and so me)?” is important, are training themselves to simply make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, ahead of the man does. Put simply, he wants a zero-risk, inside the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or perhaps your money back proposition.

As well as in today’s modern world with modern women, the last thing dating is, is risk-free.

Which means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man willing to take risks (who does then naturally attract these women whether white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to get the beautiful woman, he instead turns into the Asian beta male that is only confident when it is instead the woman who takes the original risk. Instead of the most convenient way around which is the man’s role to become dominant, forward, plus a leader.

I hope, however, I am not doing a disservice to Asian men by training to appear, and ONLY look, for these specific female signals of attraction first before you make a move… Instead of making a move first after which making her interested in you which she then supplies you with signals. That’s the right way.

Laugh your path into her heart (and then her pants)!

As you have seen, I am a very average looking man. I’m a short 5 foot 5 inches and that i know I am not a great looking or handsome guy. Every woman I’ve dated is physically (otherwise socially) out of my league. I never get those type of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You shouldn’t expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with the most beautiful women continues to be documented and faithfully captured from the media around the world.

Instead, begin using these signals and indicators of curiosity to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming attracted to you AFTER you’ve approached her and gotten to know her. You should take these 10 Signals She’s Drawn to Asian Men as signs so that you can STAY when you’re already in the conversation with her as opposed to viewing them as indicators so that you can initially approach her.

In the long run, what I’ve discovered with girls that specifically that they like Asian men are in both it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll love to be there but be mindful because you’ll get restricted quickly with a girl that chose you, not really a girl YOU chose, the industry gross difference.

And after answering this time tested question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m planning to address the 13 Kinds of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, there are women who will use the above mentioned signals because she’s only drawn to your “Asianness”, but not for that reasons that you might think.

So if you haven’t had the chance to become familiar with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later – in the end, you’re here to learn pick up, and quitting the sport early isn’t fair to yourself and also to the many women you have yet to meet.